Craving Ownership

I don't fit neatly into one or two boxes so I have decided to grab all the labels I like instead. Here's a selection of some of the ways I see myself:

FEMINIST AF

SUBMISSIVE

MASOCHIST

SOLO-POLYAMOROUS

PRIMAL PREY

BABY BOOTBLACK

SERVICE ORIENTED

HETERO-ROMANTIC

QUEER

PAN-INTIMATE

GREY ASEXUAL

HEDONIST

My main kink is D/s. Being submissive is the core of my kink personality. I am lucky enough to have a few regular play partners who flavour our scenes with D/s. I am grey asexual - the grey for me means I only feel attraction and arousal when there is power exchange.

I find the greatest intimacy within bdsm. I have coined the term 'pan-intimate' because I can find this intimacy in SM play with people of any or no gender. It is the * person * who sparks this connection for me.

I looooooove sadists. Hurt me, bruise me, make me cry, make me beg for you to stop. Then tell me it's not over yet and hurt me some more.

I'm a denial slut. I love to be edged to the point of breaking, then denied as you take your pleasure from me. I also love the opposite - being forced to cum over and over until I beg for mercy that might not be granted.

I'm an exhibitionist. I love doing scenes that people can't help but watch.

It's possible that I brat when I'm nervous. It's always my sassy mouth that gets me into trouble!

I'm blunt and outspoken. I have a very low threshold for bullshit. I am intensely loyal to those who prove worthy of it. I'm introverted so I need time alone to recharge. Large groups of people I don't know well make me nervous. I'd much rather get to know people in smaller groups.

I've been in and out of the public scene since I was 25 but I experienced my first D/s relationship at 15. I have always known I am submissive.

I love many people. I like to play with different people. I don't want to be tied down to only one person forever and ever amen. The thought makes me feel trapped. Although I am happy to be sexually monogamous with my Owner if that is what he wants, I want to maintain my play relationships (even if only under his control and subject to his whims).

I am embracing my service side more these days. Boot blacking is a new way for me to feed this desire, plus I get to perv on leather at the same time - win/win! Covid has put a damper on this aspect as there have not been gatherings for nearly 2 years. I hope to rekindle this interest when events start to happen again.

I've written some things that are posted on my Fetlife profile. My non-negotiables are a must-read (and are posted here on bdsmlr as well), but you will gain insights to my personality if you read my other stuff too. I've also got an ongoing list of writings by other people that spoke to me in some way. If you want to dominate me, you need to get inside my head. I'm offering you a side door where you can slip in and rummage around undetected.